Mar 162015
 
A week of not boasting.  No helping others along to see “I am all that and a bag o’ chips”.  No sliding in my “righteous works resume” when talking with someone new.  No “tooting my horn” after helping someone in need.  No interjecting my unrequested “oh so experienced knowledge tips” to a friend’s current problem.  Challenge accepted.  I have always known “talking yourself up” was not a great trait.  I can’t stand it when I see it in other people and yet when I am forced to look at the reality of my own conversations, I struggle with this myself.  ( I believe this is one of those take the plank out of your own eye before you can remove the splinter in another person’s eye spiritual principles at play.)  

Our #4 1 Corinthians 13 Love attribute this week is:  “LOVE DOES NOT BOAST”.

Webster’s defines the word, “Boast”, for us:
  • talk with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities.
Friends, here are some like minded words for “boast”, to further expand our mission this week (In other words these are the DO NOT do’s for this week):

bragcrowswaggerswankgloat, show off; 

exaggerateoverstate;  self praise, ride the high horse, rave, rant
informaltalk big, bloviate, blow one’s own horn, lay it on thick
And to follow up with some words opposite to being boastful (which is what we want to be-in other words DO these this week!):
humility, depreciation, modesty, quietness, reserve
To be known.  To be famous.  To be liked.  To be something.  Is our longing and desire.  And boasting can be our way of proving to all that we have hit the mark.  But I have never thought of boasting as a way to NOT show love to people.  It is not simply a bad habit.  Boasting has self rooted, self focused, self gratifying motives that cloud the heart and mind.  And blind us from looking to “someone else’s interests above our own” (phil 2:4).  Oh Lord help us to recognize our tendency to make conversations, mind set’s, and actions with the “it’s all about me” undertone.  Give us opportunities to practice self control and not say what we could say to put ourselves or our loved one’s to the place of honour (Luke 14:11).  May we lay down our pride.  And if the Anchorman mentality of, “I’m kind of a big deal, people know me”, surfaces, may the Lord give us strength to let this pride go.  And may His loving voice speak affirmation and worthiness (which we have gained through His Son, through our adoption as His sons and daughter’s) to our deepest souls.

Of all the like minded words to “boast”, the words, “brag and self praise”, were highlighted in my spirit.  How I have to fight my natural inclinations to brag to other’s about the good work I am doing.  How I see my disgust in another who seems to only talk, and talk and talk about themself-and all I am thinking is how I want to be talk, talk, talking about myself!  Oh the irony.  Lord, help us get beyond self.

Of all the opposites to “boast”, the word “humility” stuck.  In my mind.  Heart.  And deep within my soul.  May humility reign in our homes, work, and play this week as we “consider other’s as better than ourselves” (phil 2:3).  May our words and actions be pleasing to God as we fight the good fight to “be known and praised” by others.

Quotes/Verses to say NO to envy this week:

  • For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10
  • May I never boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, through which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world.  Galatians 6:14
  • Nothing is more deceitful than the appearance of humility. It is often only carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast.  Jane Austen
  • When boasting ends, there dignity begins.  Owen Young
  • Don’t brag.  It is not the whistle that moves the train.  D. V. Rangarajan
  • With a braggart, it’s no sooner done than said.  Evan Esar
  • Boasting speech is a mark of weakness.  Those who do great things are usually silent.  status mind.com
  • Now I’m not too keen about bragging on myself but you must admit I was the best.  Kim S. Jones

 

Jillian

Jillian

© 2012 Standing on Peace

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Feb 042013
 

MY HUSBAND DREADS THE MONTH OF FEBRUARY.  FOR GOOD REASON. It is the month I put my princess tiara on and dream crazy big.  Not only does February include Valentines day, it’s also the month of my birthday.

What if my prince surprises me for my birthday with a romantic getaway to an exotic island and takes me dancing?  What if my prince puts rose peddles all over our home, writes and sings me a love song, and behind my back makes homemade Valentines cards for me with my girls?

The truth is, when February hits, my mind, heart, and attitude do a 180 degree shift. I draw into me.  I dwell on how tired I am.  Tired of giving.  Tired of me as a mother in which I am not thanked, affirmed or seeming to be valued.  Tired of me as a wife who feels more like the maid then the maiden.  Tired of listening to The Voice that says, take up your cross daily and follow me.  I instead choose to listen to the voice that says you deserve more than this, you have rights, so hold to them.

The problem comes when my prince can never seem to live up to my princess expectations.  Whatever he plans for my birthday or Valentines, it is never enough.

I must take my dreamy dreams into my own hands.  I pointedly share with my husband about my good friend’s  surprise massage she got for her birthday, I start my birthday countdown atleast one month in advance (bringing it up in conversation whenever possible), I plan my own party, and I make sure I make the choices for activities, lunch and dinners all month.

It is my turn to have my needs considered before everyone else. I should be served.  I am woman, hear me roar!

My meddling puts undo stress on the family and leads to unnecessary disagreements between my husband and I.  Result:  This princess is left feeling anything but pampered.

Bottom line:  I am selfish. (I am slow when it comes to my faults.  Thank goodness for a God of patience and grace.)   I hold to my rights.  I want to be served.

Our attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.  Phil 2:5-7

I want this February 2013 to be different.  I need to practice being a servant like Jesus.   To be selfless rather than selfish.  (Instead of thinking, what are you going to do for me?  I want to think, what can I do for you?)  To practice laying down my rights and trusting God to meet all my needs.  If my God can wash dirty, smelly feet, then I can cook, and clean, and be grateful doing it.

I am thankful for another year with a healthy body, my girls to snuggle, a loving husband, food to cook, clothes to wear, with friends to laugh with, with a blog to write on, and so much more.   So happy birthday to me!

I may not always be pampered as an earthly princess would be, but I can have joy, purpose and eternal rewards in serving as a daughter of the King.  I am spoiled beyond words.

Fittingly, the song “I will follow Christ” came on as I was in the middle of writing this post.  Coincidence, I think not!

I will wear the name of Jesus, I will give him ALL my RIGHTS

As for me no matter what the sacrifice

I will follow Christ

“And Christ’s love compels us…And He died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died for them and was raised again.”  2 Cor 5:14a,15

Jillian

Jillian

© 2012 Standing on Peace

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