By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another. John 13:35
It was a typical summer morning. Dishes in the sink. Doing some breakfast improvising due to no milk and no oatmeal. Asking then re asking the kiddo’s to get dressed and clean up last nights fort. And trying to do and say it all without feeling or sounding like the Wicked Witch from the West. (“Love is not easily angered….love is not easily angered….love is not easily angered….”) Being on time without being unkind to your family sometimes seems like the impossible feat in our household.
We made it. To the car. Late, but moving in a forward motion. At this point many would skip the Dutch Bros coffee run, but this was the part of the morning which was not a negotiation. It was a necessity if you will, anyone with me? We pulled into the drive through and the cheery barista took our order. The girls yelled from the backseat, “Can we please get a steamer Mom?” Feeling giving I gave in to their request. As I continued with our order my youngest daughter rolled down her window to get a closer look at things. The cheery barista didn’t miss a beat, said “Hi girls! What are you going to do today?” My youngest daughter (the spokesperson/designated representative for the sister’s) gave not only our plans for the park play date, but also both girls’ soccer practice times, soccer team names, and soccer team shirt colors. The cheery barista listened intently, smiled and responded with an excited, “Wow! So great! So fun!”
As we pulled away from the drive through with drinks in hand my oldest daughter asked, “Why are these people so nice, Mom?” I thought about her question for a moment, and said, “Well, they must like making people feel special.” I followed it up by asking her if she liked it when they were so friendly (this is my introverted child in which I was unsure as to if the friendliness would be unappealing). She replied, “Yes, I like it a lot when they smile and talk to me.”
I so agreed with my oldest daughter. Dutch Bros had some serious “pros”. There has not been one time (and we go atleast once a week) in which I didn’t drive away from Dutch Bros feeling loved, cared for, and with a smile on my face (and this is not just because I love their Creme de Mint Decaf Mochas). Every employee smiles. Every employee is somehow a master of conversation. Every employee makes you somehow feel like you are “the best thing sense sliced bread” for that 3 minute interaction at their window.
As I pondered the “Dutch Bros Pros”, I couldn’t help but evaluate how I measured up in the “niceness towards others” category. My “Wicked Witch of the West” attitude/verbal commands earlier this morning were definitely not a shining moment of kindness. The scripture above, By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another, was my next brain thought. Shouldn’t people be leaving our church on Sunday mornings with the very same question my daughter asked as we drove away from Dutch Bros, “Why are these people so nice?” Shouldn’t my kids, husband, co-worker’s, friend’s and stranger’s walk away from interactions with me thinking, “Why is she so nice?”
Because the love of Jesus in me and in you should make a difference. Other’s should questions why we care about them so much. Why we listen without judgement. Why we give of ourselves and our resources with no strings attached. Why we have genuine interest in our questions to them. Why our words speak life, encouragement, and kindness always. Why we rely on the Holy Spirit to turn the “Wicked Witch of the West” morning attitudes into “Glinda, the Good Witch of the South” marked by patience and love. Other’s should be able to tell we are believer’s by the care, concern and love we give. It’s time for the church and for ourselves to take on the “Dutch Bros Pros” relationship strategy and be. known. by. love.
How can you change your morning routine to better reflect the love of Jesus to your family?
What times of the day or specific activities make you more prone to quick, harsh words?
In what way can you facilitate a “Dutch Bros Pros” welcoming, caring, nice environment for people who walk into your church?
Think and act on the saying, “if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say it at all”.
© 2012 Standing on Peace