- “Honor phrases” are currently on the brain: “I really should honor my needs and take a vacation.” “Wow, his medal of honor shows he is well deserving of affirmation.” “I sure hope I get on the honor role for school.” To be honored in front of others seems to be valued in our society. On the flip side, I can think of more times than I would like to admit that I have personally been dishonoured in front of others. To dishonor, demean, disrespect, make fun of others is par for the course in our society. Other’s applaud the creativity of “rips” made toward someone, a put down sarcastic joke, or a “come back” zinger in an argument. To be seen as confident, smart, cool and capable, just make fun of someone. And I wish I could say I was above this kind of communication. But not only have I been the “butt” of someone’s joke, I have teared down others (with unkind words) in an effort to build myself up.
Our #6 1 Corinthians 13 “Love it up” attribute this week is: “LOVE DOES NOT DISHONOR”.
- Webster’s defines the word, “Dishonor”, for us:
- bring shame or disgrace on.
- fail to observe or respect Friends, here are some like minded words for “dishonor”, to further expand our mission this week (In other words these are the DO NOT do’s for this week):.
disgrace, shame, discredit, bring into disrepute, humiliate, degrade,debase, lower, cheapen, drag down, drag through the mud, blacken the name of, give a bad name to;And to follow up with some words opposite to dishonouring (which is what we want to be-in other words DO these this week!):
- admiration, appreciation, estimation, regard; awe, fear, reverence;fame, glory, renown, repute, esteem, honor, respect
Of all the like minded words of “dishonor”, the words, “shame, humiliate, lower”, were highlighted in my spirit. Questions which beg for difficult answers are, “How do I respond when I feel shamed or humiliated by someone? Do I continue the downward spiral and continue the “zing fest” in my defensiveness, shame and hurt?” “Is there anyone it has become normal to put down in front of others, even if it is ‘all in the name of fun’?” “How can I be an advocate of change in an environment that is full of dishonoring one another?” “Am I willing to be wronged, cheated, demeaned, in an effort to win others for Christ?” (1 Corinthians 6:7)
Of all the opposites to “dishonor”, the word “respect” jumped out to me. I remember in my first year of marriage reading (okay you caught me-skimming) the book, “Love and Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. And I recall the countless nights wrestling with this respect concept in marriage. Wrestling with the notion that this respect thing was of more value to my man than loving him. It was good for me to recall this book in the now because I so often fail to affirm him in the day to day. I desire to not only respect my husband in heart and words and to respect others in the same way.
As we embark on this “Week of Honor”, may we go against the cultural norms and reclaim every school, house, church building, grocery store, work place we find ourselves in as places of “honoring one another above ourselves.” May we build up when others choose to tear down. May every person we come into contact with this week expect only goodness and kindness and encouragement to come from our mouths. May we actually role model to our kids what we tell them to do, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”.
Oh Lord, help us to first honor You above all else. Teach us to then honor, build up, respect, and appreciate those we rub shoulders with today. And the next day. And the next day. Show us this week how we can come to the rescue for those we see demeaned and put down by someone. Give us opportunities to enter into a new day and season of honoring spaces wherever our feet take us. And may we walk in the light of your glorious grace as we walk and work out our faith in a way that brings honor to Your Name alone.
A Quotes/Verses to say NO to the dishonoring spirit this week:
- Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.
- Honor the Lord your God, worship only him, and make your promises in his name alone. Deuteronomy 6:13
- “Ridicule dishonors a man more than dishonor does.” Francois de La Rochefoucauld
- “We glorify God with all of our members, but in most cases, our mouths seem to get more opportunity. So it just goes without saying that we can dishonor Him with our mouths as well.” Monica Johnson
- “Confidence… thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live. Franklin D. Roosevelt
- “There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self.” Henri Frederic Amiel
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