Oct 152012
 

 

 

 

 

TOP 10 LIST OF THINGS THAT GIVE ME GUILT:

  1. Going the extra, extra mile kids birthday party pictures on Facebook (see picture)
  2. Eating a cheeseburger and fries
  3. Going away for awhile and having to leave the girls
  4. The Pottery Barn magazine
  5. The Victoria Secret model commercials on TV
  6. A friend’s vacation pictures
  7. My 4th cup of coffee in the morning
  8. Turning on a TV show for my kids to watch
  9. Missing my quiet time with the Lord
  10. We have pizza for dinner
  11. A dirty floor, dishes, and toilet
  12. Working women
  13. Marathon runners
  14. Friend’s that do craft projects
  15. Failure in one of my roles as mother, wife, friend, sister, daughter, or child of God
  16. My daughter throwing a tantrum in public
  17. My dead plants
  18. Organic food
  19. Seeing children in activites/sports my child is not signed up for
  20. The ultra organized in photos, house, job

Well, woops.  Thought it would be a list of my top 10.  Guess I doubled that.  Couldn’t restrain myself.

All of the above say to me “You are not good enough.”  “You should be ashamed of yourself.”

We all have are own list of people or things that cause us to feel inadequate.  The individual or situation may trigger the guilty feelings.  But they are not to blame.  We decide how we will respond to those feelings.

Our self worth is shot when we go against the cultural norms.  Our world thrives on making us feel that we NEED to look and act a certain way.  That we NEED to have specific things. And when we don’t.  Guilt.

THE STEPS THAT LEAD ME TO A DAY OF “GUILT CLOUDS”:

  1. Condemning thoughts enter my mind triggered by my own insecurity
  2. I entertain them-don’t put them out of my mind
  3. I compare myself with others
  4. I look to others opinions rather than God’s opinion
  5. I believe Satan’s lies
  6. I doubt my self-worth
  7. I become self-focused rather than others focused
  8. I open the flood gates and accept more lies from Satan
  9. I become overcome with guilt
  10. I live out my thoughts through my actions:  I become crippled to live in freedom and joy for the day

Well that is depressing.  But my reality.  How quickly the “guilt cloud” covers me.

Just like the Oregon clouds leave us hoping for clearer days, guilt leaves us discontent.  We are not satisfied with how God made us.  With what God has given. Guilt brings out the worst in us.

It all comes down to this: 

When I am faced with the temptation to embrace the guilty feelings, will I:

A.  Listen to the Spirit’s truth

B.  Listen to Satan’s lies

  • A VERSE TO PONDER:  Gal. 1:10 “Am I now trying to win the approval of men or of God?  Or am I trying to please men?  If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Do you relate with any of my “Top 10 list of things that bring me guilt”?  If so, I would love to hear…misery loves company!

 

 

Jillian

Jillian

© 2012 Standing on Peace

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  6 Responses to “Got guilt? Part 2-Top 10 things that give me guilt”

  1. Jillian, I enjoyed your honesty in this post. I relate with many of your Top 20; I even caught myself verbally agreeing with some of them (nobody actually witnessed me talking to my computer, phew). I wish mamas extended more grace to each other because mothering is such a hard job (right? RIGHT?). I love the verse you gave us to ponder, that so resonated with me. Our world does try to get us to act and live a certain way…such rubbish (laying ALL of that down is easier said than done though). And don’t get me started on Facebook either. Thank you for your honesty and giving me great thoughts to ponder! Xoxo

  2. Jillian,
    Appreciate the brutal honesty here so much…I’m sure that list was hard to write and put “out there.” It is so good to know we are not alone in all our insecurities. Thanks for this priceless post.

  3. Caught me perfectly…with every line. Well done and thanks for the (gentle) slap on the side of the head.

  4. I too share in those guilty feelings. Many people in my neighborhood only eat organic food and don’t even own a television. I compare myself to those that just seem to know everything. It’s so easy to fall into that trap of trying to be a “people pleaser” instead of trying to live a life that is pleasing to God. As a mother, I have feelings of inadequacy daily. It’s the most humbling job in the world, I believe. On the other hand, it’s one of the most rewarding. Being a mother is like waiting for the clouds to clear and then feeling that warm sunshine on your face, seeing the rainbow in the sky. God teaches me, in those storms, to be patient and rely on His strength. I don’t always remember that. Thank you Lord for being patient with me!

  5. Thanks Melanie for being transparent and sharing some of your “guilt list”! SO agree that Satan works overtime with lies about how we are not perfect. He of course is the Father of lies. We feel shamed. We feel inadequate. Just where he wants us to be. I would love to get you started on Facebook. 🙂 Always appreciate a fellow Facebook realist. And I guess my hope would be that I, as well as others, would post the real truth. Even if it is humbling. Even if, like in your example, I fed my kids cereal for dinner while downing my fourth Diet Coke of the day-real life. love it! P.S. Diet Coke-Diet Cherry Coke actually is another one of my guilty drinks. Just didn’t have room to put all mine on there. 🙂

  6. Thanks, Jillian, for being vulnerable enough to share your list of what makes you feel guilt. Lots of things on your list are on mine, too (though change Diet Coke for coffee, and cereal for pizza). I wonder, too, if a lot of our guilt comes from the messages we receive, in secular and Christian culture, about what the perfect woman should be. Maybe that’s just another version of satan’s lies, because I think we are lied to all the time about how we should be the end-all, be-all to everyone around us: perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect homemaker, with perfect kids who don’t tantrum in public, ever. And I also think women are harder on themselves, and on each other, about reaching this impossible standard. It would be real grace and freedom if we could just be easier on ourselves and resist judging others.

    (And don’t get me started on Facebook, which I think has increased our guilt and our judgment. We see everyone else’s great lives, and ours look like chaos by comparison. But really, whose going to post that they fed their kids cereal for dinner while downing their fourth Diet Coke of the day?)

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