I’m not the expert on the topic of vulnerability. In fact, I’m far from it.
I do know, we’ve all been burned, beat up and bruised by our experiences with vulnerability. We’ve been scared, walled off or numb to it. Some of us want to open up, but are only at the “thinking about it stage”.
I will say there is wisdom in choosing who will be kind with your heart. Who will hold it gently, without judgement. You can be choose-y when it comes to those you want to expose your heart to.
Although I’m not the expert, I can share what my life experiences have taught me. Maybe something from this page will glitter for you.
- Vulnerability is Uncomfortable. When I am about to share something deeply personal with someone, when I am about to expose a part of my soul, I am usually accompanied by a racing heart, sweaty palms, or churning stomach. Rarely has sharing my story been as comfortable as talking to myself in the mirror. Opening ourselves for possible wounds goes against our nature. It does get a little easier each time though.
- Vulnerability Often Breeds Depth. More times than not, when I have shared my heart with someone or exposed a weakness of mine with them, an unknown depth is introduced into the relationship. Our souls can connect on a real level. It does away with the tendency to stay on the surface, which can offer little meaning. I have a collection of what I call,“heart friends”, now because I am trying to choose the path of sharing the intricacies of me.
- Vulnerability Brings Freedom. Once I have shared my heart and it has been received, a burden is often lifted. My shame, my darkness, my insecurities no longer fester in the darkness, but are brought into the light to process, heal, and hopefully help others. “For you are all sons of light and sons of day. We are not of night nor of darkness.” 1 Thessalonians 5:5
- Vulnerability Can Turn Perceived Weaknesses into Strengths. I used to think my eating disorder was something to be ashamed of. Something I should keep to myself. But since practicing talking about it with others, I see that it is changing from a perceived weakness to a strength. Others who suffer familiar pains can relate. They can feel less alone. They can see hope. Some of the things we are most scared to be vulnerable about are the exact things someone else needs to hear to move on, to breathe, to feel normal.
I love this quote I read today:
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”
– Brene Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead
Are you craving to be more vulnerable in your life? Are you wanting more depth in a relationship? Do you have someone who will be kind with your heart?
© 2012 Standing on Peace