Mar 312015

Hey everyone!  Sorry about the mispost of love “does not dishonor others”.  We will resume our Love it up challenge this coming week-I took a week off to simply “be” with my family over spring break.  It was a time of filling my heart.  Loving.  Laughing.  Relaxing.  With those I love.

Will you do the same this week?  Take a break from the Love Challenge.  And show love by BEING PRESENT with those you love.  See how God fills your heart as you lay down your agenda.




© 2012 Standing on Peace

Mar 252015

To walk in humility.  To consider other’s as better than ourselves.  To have a servant attitude like Christ.  To hold our tongue when we could so let others know we are all that and more!  To lay down the pride was this week’s overall challenge.  And boy did I have opportunities this week to practice “Do not boast” love attribute of 1 Corinthians 13.  

Boasting versus Humility Moment #1-New friend-

Of course the sermon passage this week was Luke 14:11 which says, “he who exalts himself will be humbled and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”  Fitting.  Very fitting.  It was obvious the boasting challenge was on.  Throughout the week I found myself operating with a new device/gadget called “The Boasting Checker”.  Meaning, my brain was continually evaluating, “to boast or not to boast, that is the question”. I met someone new at Bible study and as we talked I was cautious.   I asked her a lot of questions.  (This was a safe zone for not boasting about me.)  But then she asked what I did for work-I stated I was the worship pastor at our church.  And then kept going with, “I am also considered lead pastor at our church since we are in a team model and all 5 pastors serve as the senior pastor.”  Immediately I had a check in my spirit.  Went too far with that follow up comment.  Wasn’t necessary and wasn’t living out humility.  I guess my “Boasting Checker” didn’t catch this one.  On the way home from bible study I took a deep breath in. Then out.  Then asked for the Lord to forgive me of my boasting and prideful spirit.  (And I asked Him to fix my “Boasting Checker” gadget to have better luck next time.)

Boasting versus Humility Moment #2-Old friend-

It was Kindergarten round up day and this being the second time we have done this, I was strangely at ease.  Even though we have been unsure about which school to send our girls to in the past, today was not that day.  My husband and I were rock solid with this decision.  Rock solid with peace.  Rock solid in the vast wisdom we could extend to any needing soul.  A got the opportunity to talk with 2 old friends in regards to the half day versus full day/public versus private versus homeschool versus bilingual program options.  I asked God to give me wisdom for each of my friends and show His love to them in this place the challenging place they were in.  And He did.  But somewhere along the boasting continuum, my “rock solid” state I was in turned into a prideful spirit.  My rock solidness looked somewhat like, “I know the best choice, I know it all, I have things really put together” in my mind, heart and am sure overflowed out of my mouth.  (It’s hard to get away from the scripture, “Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.” Luke 6:45)  It’s a bummer to recognize even in doing good work for the Kingdom, my pride still comes into play.  And I HAVE to remember that any GOOD done for someone is not because of ME.  Alone, I can do NOTHING.  It is ALWAYS the Spirit at work in me which produces spiritual fruit.  “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”  John 15:5

Boasting versus Humility Moment #3-God talk-

As I ran with the Lord I asked Him what was at the root of my struggle to boast.  Boast.  Boast.  And boast some more.  Am I so lacking.  Deficient.  Insecure that I must compensate by talking myself up?  I believe He responded to my question by directing my thoughts to the NOT portions of the love chapter in 1 Corinthians 13.  He whispered to my soul that all the “DO NOT’s” in the chapter stem from a deeper lie that we carry.  And ironically, it is an “I AM NOT/I HAVE NOT” deep lie, that moves us to participate in the surface issue of boasting, or envy or other DO NOT statements of the love chapter.  We take control of the building ourselves up instead of trusting THE BUILDER (maker of us) to do this work.  For example, when I believe the lie that I am NOT enough-I take control.  I don’t trust God.  And I boast to others that I AM enough.  Or when I believe the lie that I must have more clothes, toys for my kids, newer cars, or a better tv or house to be happy/successful in our culture, saying I do NOT have enough-I take control.  I don’t trust God (to provide/give abundant life).  And I compare what I have to what others have and I get jealous/have envy when they have more (success, material things) than I do.  When we start to have the “I AM/HAVE NOT” untrue statements going through our minds, we must go to God to “renew our mind with I AM” true statements from His Word-we go to the Great I Am for our “I AM” statements.  Here are some I hold to today:

I am a child of the King.  I am created perfectly by the Potter.  I am intended to bring Him glory.  I am valued highly.  I am destined for a great purpose.  I am weak, but in Him I am strong.  I am dead to sin but alive in Jesus.  I am forgiven.  I am free.

Am I now trying to win the approval of men or of God or am I trying to please men?  If I were trying to please men I would not be a servant of Christ.  Galatians 1:10

As for me, may I never boast about anything except the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ.  Galatians 6:14a

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or a cheap desire to boast. But be humble towards one another, always considering others as better than yourselves. Phil 2:3-4



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Mar 232015
Since I have been primarily focusing on the current love attribute for the week, I haven’t thought much about what was the one coming up next.  But as I sit to write about this #5 attribute of “not being proud”, I have to chuckle to myself.  One of the scripture’s I kept hearing over and over in my mind yesterday was “and all your righteousness acts are like filthy rags” ( Isaiah 64:6b).  Fairly fitting.  Timely.  For dealing with this “arrogant and proud” week.  

Our #5 1 Corinthians 13 “Love it up” attribute this week is:  “LOVE IS NOT PROUD”.

Webster’s defines the word, “Proud or prideful”, for us:
  • having or showing a high or excessively high opinion of oneself or one’s importance.
  • having or displaying feelings of scorn for what is regarded as beneath oneself.
Friends, here are some like minded words for “proud/prideful”, to further expand our mission this week (In other words these are the DO NOT do’s for this week):.

conceited, egotistic, cool, high and mighty, lordly, lofty,  vain, self important, puffed up, presumptuous,  

know it all, domineering, superior
And to follow up with some words opposite to being prideful (which is what we want to be-in other words DO these this week!):
humblelowlymodest, submissive, compliant, yielding

Of all the like minded words of “prideful”, the words, “know it all and superior”, were highlighted in my spirit.  Questions which beg for difficult answers are, “Do I respond to criticism and someone telling me I have hurt them in some way with the attitude of, ‘Well, I only responded in that way because of…..’?”  “Has blaming others become habit?”  Bottom line being I am right.  I know what’s what.  And it is always someone else’s problem.  Hmmmm.  Not fun questions to ponder over coffee and scones.

Of all the opposites to “proud or prideful”, the word “modest” jumped out to me.  Our last week’s attribute, “to not boast”, is so similar to this week’s attribute.  Many of the opposite words like “humility” are the same, as well as the like minded words.  But while “boasting” requires an outward change, the prideful spirit is requiring an inward change.  A mindset change. A changing work of the Spirit.  To be modest and humble in heart is our goal.

I am already convicted with this love attribute of pride.  I am convicted about the good things I am doing in response to God’s Word and His Spirit’s leading.  Not because what I’m doing is wrong, but my heart behind my obedience is off.  We should be obedient to God and His Word.  But we shouldn’t have a prideful, “wow, I’ve got this Christian thing down” heart attitude when we do.  I am reminded again that nothing I do makes me righteous.  It is only Jesus’ death and resurrection on the cross which makes me righteous before God.  And I know this.  But sometimes.  Okay maybe more times than I would like.  I forget.

So this week does not seem to involve any outward actions on my part.  The pride battle within ourselves unfortunately is much of what Jesus was so frustrated with the Pharisee’s about.  But Jesus knew the ticket to removing pride:

Get. Over. Yourself.  And Get. Under. God.

Quotes/Verses to say NO to the prideful spirit this week:

  • Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before stumbling.  It is better to be humble in spirit with the lowly Than to divide the spoil with the proud.…Proverbs 16:18-19
  • Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.  Philippians 2:3
  • “As long as you are proud you cannot know God.  A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot see something that is above you.” C.S. Lewis
  • “All men make mistakes, but a good man yields when he knows his course is wrong, and repairs the evil. The only crime is pride.”  Sophocles
  • “It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride.”  John Ruskin
  • “Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune. ” C.G. Jung




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Mar 182015

A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.  Proverbs 14:30

I don’t know about you but I’d rather have healthy bones in my body.  The above scripture portray’s the fairly (or absolutely- if you will) negative impact jealousy and envy can have on our lives.  And my bones felt the pull towards envy decay right off the bat this week.  (I find that God has not waited to provide practice opportunities for my “love attribute of the week”.  First day of “Do not envy” and it’s go time.  Oh let the fun begin!)

Envy/Jealousy versus  Contentment Moment #1-with my brother-

As I walked around my brother’s new property I was in awe.  Of our creator God.  The pink sky I felt I could reach out and touch.  The snow covered mountain on my right.  The quiet wrestling of trees all around me.  Majesty.  Apparent everywhere my eyes rested.  Majesty.  Of a God with such creativity and wonder.  Majesty.  Of a place to live.  It was here where my spirit filled thoughts went to garbage town.  It started with one simple question.  “Why not me?”  I wanted this.  I wanted something I didn’t have.   And then the compare.  “Why does he get “majesty living” and I get “too close for comfort, in town living?”

But right about at this point I stopped the “envy train”.  And I blowed the whistle on a discontented attitude.  “Love does not envy” was the train’s new direction.  “Rejoice with those who rejoice” (Romans 12:15) kept the mental train on the right track. I thought about all the things about where I live that I have to be thankful for and the train was running full steam ahead.  I began to get a burst of excitement when I pictured my brother’s family getting this joy filled gift from God.  A place of peace and beauty in the upcoming new season.  A place to provide hospitality for others.  A place of rest after many busy years.  A place to enjoy God and enjoy others.  (Now there was no way the mental train was turning back.)

Thank you God for my home.  Thank you God for all your good gifts that come from above.  Thank you God for providing this good gift to my brother.  

Envy/Jealousy versus  Contentment Moment #2-with my husband-

I was on a run and praying through what area’s of jealousy/envy I am unaware of in my life.  The scripture reading for the day on my Bible App for my phone was Isaiah 56.  A portion of it talks about the wicked being those who love sleep.  (Bummer.  Guess I am in the wicked camp on this one.)  Just that morning I looked over at my husband who was resting so peacefully.  And I, in turn, threw off my covers with such frustration that I hit myself in the face.  It began with a simple question, again, (you would think I would catch the trend here), “Why not me?”  I once again wanted something I didn’t have.  The grass is greener on the other side…of the bed.  Followed up by the comparison trap again, “Why does he get to sleep while I have to get up early to work out, write, and/or have time with God?”  Unfortunately I stayed in this discontented, distasteful state until I read the above Isaiah passage.  God’s Word is so timely and applicable to our current life situations.  It allowed me, once again, to take a good look at myself in the mirror.  And in this case, see clearly I had an envy issue.  Oh how lovely to see our flaws laid out before us.  But oh how gracious of a God to accept, forgive, and give us His Holy Spirit to help us overcome.

Envy/Jealousy versus  Contentment Moment #2-with my girls-

My youngest daughter had a timely question, “Mom, what does jealousy mean?”  (Oh how she didn’t know she had hit on the hot topic/love attribute word of the week!  I was pumped to share!  But I had to take it down a notch.  Or maybe two.  I put my researched data on hold for a moment and entered into her world.)  “Well, I am so glad you asked, honey.  And why do you ask?”  My daughter promptly replied, “My friend said she was jealous I got to go in a hot tub at my Nana’s house because she wanted to go in one.”  What a God ordained conversation we got to have about being content with what we have.  That Jesus wants us to do our best not to compare ourselves, our toys, activities, opportunities,  and gifts to what others have.

Fortunately, the Lord gave my girls opportunities to practice this jealousy concept after our trip to the dollar store.  (Can I just say I have a love/hate relationship with this place?  At the time I feel I am getting myself or my girls so much for so not much money.  Then my elation dwindles on the car ride home as the stuffing from the snake is coming out of the rip and the hula hoop breaks in half after one day of good fun.  Now I am forced to sow back together a $1 snake and tape or buy a new hula hoop that actually works.  Obviously this recent wound has not healed yet.)  Since my oldest daughter was at school when I took my youngest daughter, we just bought her the same things only different colors.  Mistake of the century.  Apparently.  My oldest daughter cried for more time than you would imagine as she envied, “I wanted the mermaid with the blond hair, not red hair!  And I wanted a different colored cup!”

We look to Jesus to not fall into the more, more, “Green eyed monster” ways.  Into the “I want what they have” thoughts on repeat.  The envy.  The jealousy.  Is.  All.  Around.  Us.  Greed and the lust for more is rampant (Luke 12:15).  The contented, thankful, enough mindset is not valued and practiced.  May we be the light in our world to usher ourselves and others into a contented.  Restful.  Grateful spirit.   For the blessings God has given us abound.

“Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances.”  Philippians 4:11

“Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, “I WILL NEVER DESERT YOU, NOR WILL I EVER FORSAKE YOU,” Hebrews 13:5






© 2012 Standing on Peace

Mar 162015
A week of not boasting.  No helping others along to see “I am all that and a bag o’ chips”.  No sliding in my “righteous works resume” when talking with someone new.  No “tooting my horn” after helping someone in need.  No interjecting my unrequested “oh so experienced knowledge tips” to a friend’s current problem.  Challenge accepted.  I have always known “talking yourself up” was not a great trait.  I can’t stand it when I see it in other people and yet when I am forced to look at the reality of my own conversations, I struggle with this myself.  ( I believe this is one of those take the plank out of your own eye before you can remove the splinter in another person’s eye spiritual principles at play.)  

Our #4 1 Corinthians 13 Love attribute this week is:  “LOVE DOES NOT BOAST”.

Webster’s defines the word, “Boast”, for us:
  • talk with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities.
Friends, here are some like minded words for “boast”, to further expand our mission this week (In other words these are the DO NOT do’s for this week):

bragcrowswaggerswankgloat, show off; 

exaggerateoverstate;  self praise, ride the high horse, rave, rant
informaltalk big, bloviate, blow one’s own horn, lay it on thick
And to follow up with some words opposite to being boastful (which is what we want to be-in other words DO these this week!):
humility, depreciation, modesty, quietness, reserve
To be known.  To be famous.  To be liked.  To be something.  Is our longing and desire.  And boasting can be our way of proving to all that we have hit the mark.  But I have never thought of boasting as a way to NOT show love to people.  It is not simply a bad habit.  Boasting has self rooted, self focused, self gratifying motives that cloud the heart and mind.  And blind us from looking to “someone else’s interests above our own” (phil 2:4).  Oh Lord help us to recognize our tendency to make conversations, mind set’s, and actions with the “it’s all about me” undertone.  Give us opportunities to practice self control and not say what we could say to put ourselves or our loved one’s to the place of honour (Luke 14:11).  May we lay down our pride.  And if the Anchorman mentality of, “I’m kind of a big deal, people know me”, surfaces, may the Lord give us strength to let this pride go.  And may His loving voice speak affirmation and worthiness (which we have gained through His Son, through our adoption as His sons and daughter’s) to our deepest souls.

Of all the like minded words to “boast”, the words, “brag and self praise”, were highlighted in my spirit.  How I have to fight my natural inclinations to brag to other’s about the good work I am doing.  How I see my disgust in another who seems to only talk, and talk and talk about themself-and all I am thinking is how I want to be talk, talk, talking about myself!  Oh the irony.  Lord, help us get beyond self.

Of all the opposites to “boast”, the word “humility” stuck.  In my mind.  Heart.  And deep within my soul.  May humility reign in our homes, work, and play this week as we “consider other’s as better than ourselves” (phil 2:3).  May our words and actions be pleasing to God as we fight the good fight to “be known and praised” by others.

Quotes/Verses to say NO to envy this week:

  • For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10
  • May I never boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, through which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world.  Galatians 6:14
  • Nothing is more deceitful than the appearance of humility. It is often only carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast.  Jane Austen
  • When boasting ends, there dignity begins.  Owen Young
  • Don’t brag.  It is not the whistle that moves the train.  D. V. Rangarajan
  • With a braggart, it’s no sooner done than said.  Evan Esar
  • Boasting speech is a mark of weakness.  Those who do great things are usually silent.  status
  • Now I’m not too keen about bragging on myself but you must admit I was the best.  Kim S. Jones




© 2012 Standing on Peace

Mar 112015

Thank goodness for the kindness of Jesus to me this week as I became aware of more than I would like to admit times when my kindness towards others fell short.  Real short.

Love Attribute #2:  Kindness=Care/consideration/selflessness versus Unkindness=disconcern for another, rude, selfishness-  “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted…” Ephesians 4:32a

Kindness versus unkindness situation #1:  My husband and I took our kids to Awana’s (A Bible memory/game filled night for kids) as we typically do.  The beauty of this is they love it and our learning God’s Word, PLUS my hubby and I get a quick date night after we drop them off.  A win, win if I have ever seen one.

I saw a friend I hadn’t seen in awhile and thought I should probably not go talk to her because there is a possibility it could be a long conversation and I don’t want to cut into our already short date night time.  I couldn’t help myself.  I jumped in with both feet and ended up talking to her while my husband is patiently waiting for me.

The problem here is I didn’t consider my husband’s needs.  I knew he would wait.  I was more concerned with my in the moment conversation than protecting our scheduled time together.  I see this now.  But in the moment all I wanted to do was justify my actions to my husband.  I didn’t want to listen to how my actions had been unkind to him.  Quarreling was on the tip of my “to do list”, if you know what I mean.  Then this scripture I had read only that morning came to mind, “”And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone,” (2 Timothy 2:24a).  Timely.  So, the Jesus kindness within me led me to hold my ever wanting to spew my rights, disagreements, and justifications, I pressed down the “quarrel in me”.  And apologised to my husband with a, “I’m sorry, honey, I won’t do that again”.

Kindness versus unkindness situation #2:  I was doing my routine dishes and dancin to the Christian radio station after dinner.  (Christian music plays more often than not in our house-for my sanity and overall need for the Jesus perspective/attitude in my heart and mind.)  My daughter said, “Mommy, I want Jazz music to do my dancing to.  Can you turn on some Jazz music?”  (First off, not sure where my four year old has even heard of Jazz music, but the main point is, the Christian music was my life blood and she was asking to change it??  Oh the depravity!)  I matter of factly replied, “Honey, you can do your dancing to these songs.”  Her prompt and dagger in the heart teared response was, “Mom, you always get what you want.”  (Gotta love those, showing your yucky self moments.)  Immediately, “Love is kind”, ran through my mind and I recognized kindness is about not getting what I want.  Being humbled by her statement I excitedly yelled, “You are right, so let’s get some Jazz on!”  She jumped up and down and said, “Mommy, do you know why I like Jazz music?”  “No, I don’t honey, why?”  I replied, intrigued now.  “Because it’s jazzy.”  She said.  (Well of course!  Isn’t that why anyone would love Jazz music?)

Kindness versus unkindness situation #3:  My last “kindness kick” story is about how the kindness of God brought me to tears this week.  I attended a worship conference at the end of the week and was hopeful to come away with encouragement, new ideas, grounding wisdom, and new friends.  What I was not hoping to come away with was smeared mascara from crying in the bathroom.  But unfortunately, the latter became my reality.  I felt God was asking me to hand out some of my “Sing Over Me” women’s devotional books.  My inner commentary is always my worst enemy as I considered following through with this, “The women will think you are prideful.  Why are you promoting yourself?  Who are you anyway to even have a book?”  As I sat in the restroom, the tears began to stream down my face as I felt bombarded with the “You are NOT” statements.  I felt so unworthy to be used by my God.  In that very moment the scripture, “I did not give you a spirit of timidity (or fear), but of power and love and self discipline” (2 Timothy 1:7) came to mind.  In my moment of fear and insecurity, the kindness of God gave me strength, courage and reassuring.  That He was with me.  And that I could do this with his help.  (Any fear of man and discouragement of who I am made to be in Christ is only from one fiery place!)

So I wiped all the mascara off my face and headed into the “women in ministry” session where I had been given permission to hand out my books.  I got the opportunity to share a little of my testimony and handed out the books to the women.  The Lord opened multiple doors through this to be able to pray for some women and encourage them in their faith journey’s.  But two woman’s words have stayed with me, “You are the reason I was supposed to come to this session”, and “Thank you for giving us these books, this was so kind, so very kind of you.”  I had not even thought about giving away these books as an act of love and specifically fulfilling this week’s focus of kindness.  But praise be to God that when we are obedient to His voice, His kindness comes out without us even being aware of it!  Oh how the kindness of God blesses me over.  And over.  And over again.

“Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?”  Romans 2:4

“Because thy lovingkindness is better than life, my lips shall praise thee.”  Psalm 63:3









© 2012 Standing on Peace

Mar 092015
First real thoughts (as much as they may be living not in reality, but in a fairytale):  “I am not an envious person.  I know other’s struggle with desiring what other’s have, but I have been blessed with plenty.  I have had seasons of discontentment, but in this moment, I cannot think of anything I want that someone else has.”  Quite confident right out of the gate (I am sensing pride comes before a fall…right?) I have a feeling in digging into “envy defined” and God working in me, there is more to this little word and my present heart situation than meets the eye.  This week we take on the challenge to show others the love of Jesus by not envying them.

Our #3 1 Corinthians 13 Love attribute this week is:  “LOVE DOES NOT ENVY”.

Webster’s defines the word, “Envy”, for us:
  • a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck.
  • desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable attribute belonging to (someone else)/desire for oneself (something possessed or enjoyed by another).
Friends, here are some like minded words for “envy”, to further expand our mission this week (In other words these are the DO NOT do’s for this week):

jealousy, covetousness; covet, desire, aspire to, wish for, want, long for, yearn for, hanker after, crave resentment, bitterness, discontent; the green-eyed monster;  
And to follow up with some words opposite to being envious (which is what we want to be-in other words DO these this week!):
contented, friendly, kindly, satisfied, trustful, well-disposed, undesiring

I noticed “to envy” deals with “feelings and desires” as stated in the definition, as opposed to an outward act or action.  These inward feelings are what Jesus took the Pharisee’s to town about.  “You white washed tombs!  Outside you look great, but inside you are not so good!” (Jillian’s paraphrase of Jesus’ words).  We know “man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7).  So we are dealing with a heart issue this week friends.  These are the doozies.  No one may ever know what is happening inside us, but God does.  And He is the one who counts.  Who is the ultimate judge.  Who cares about our inside character the most.

Of all the opposite’s to envy, the words, “contented and undesiring”, hit too close to home for me.  How easy is it to say I am contented where I am with job, family, house, finances, but are my complaining words telling others otherwise?  I am pretty sure “Do everything without complaining…” whether in my mind or in verbal comments will be something to tend to this week.

Of all the like minded words to envy, the words “jealousy, wish for, and the green eyes monster” were highlighted in my mind and spirit.  Pretty sure the green eyed monster rears its ugly head in my heart more than I would like to admit.  Jealousy over someone else’s joy rolls in like a flood.  This week, my prayer is that we would consider our “attitude’s of the heart”.  Allow for God to show us when the “green eyed monster” is evident and help us have contentment and “rejoice with those who rejoice” (Ro 12:15) this week.

Quotes/Verses to say NO to envy this week:




© 2012 Standing on Peace

Mar 042015

Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.  Proverbs 14:29

Ironically, as I am writing this, my daughter is pulling on my shirt, saying for probably the 10th time, Mommy, come on.  Can’t you be done with that computer?”  This situation was only one of the many times my patience was tested this week.   (You would be proud of me.  Even though I had plenty of “lacking patience reactions” this week, this one was not one of them.  I set down the computer, responded to my daughter with, “How can I help you honey?”, attended to her present need, and then got back to writing these thoughts.)

Impatient versus patient moment #1-“Hurry up, come on, hurry up!”  I caught myself yelling up the stairs, from the other room, and within sight distance to my six year old daughter.  On more than one occasion.  Truthfully, more times than I can count on two hands.  And even though this was our typical before school “dance”, this week was different.  I wasn’t perfect every day, but I was wearing a new “patience awareness hat”, and a calming, centering truth continued to run through my mind like a banner, “Love is patient”.  And thank the Lord, many times, He helped me respond like He would, instead of simply reacting.

In those times of choosing to be patient versus impatient, it was freeing.  I gave myself permission to Pause.  Take a deep breath.  Slow down.  It didn’t mean I  let my daughter not get ready for school.  Or stay home from school.  Or not eat breakfast.  The “must do’s” stayed in tact.  But my angry, yelling, anxiety driven, fast moving spirit and self was dialed way down.  My posture and presentation was different.  Amazing.  I found it possible to “bear with her” in love.

Impatient versus patient moment #2-with God:

I visited a friend who had been sick for awhile.  I was frustrated seeing her unable to perform her regular blessing others and her family due to her sickness.  I felt compelled to pray for healing.  I was disappointed when she wasn’t feeling completely better at that moment.  On my way home I felt I needed to pray again for her and recognized that I am a “Do it now, Lord” kind of girl.  And then if not, then, “Well, it’s now or never, so I guess that’s that” attitude.  I felt a need to commit to praying for her multiple times, each day, for the upcoming week.  I walked the walk of “Love is patient” in prayer.

Impatient versus patient moment #3-with car driver’s:

I was face to face with an oncoming car on a two way street.  The street was hardly big enough for one vehicle let alone two.  My first thought was, “I am further along the road than they are, they should pull over and yield to let me go by.  My next thought was, “You can choose to be patient.”  So I backed up, and backed up some more, until I was able to let them by.  I won’t deny, the pride hurt a little when I succumbed while obviously in the right.  But an opportunity to be patient presented itself and my natural instincts had to take a back seat.

Over this week, I recognized I so want others to practice patience, but I don’t do it myself.  So, I guess you could say I am atleast more aware of my lack of patience.  And with heightened awareness comes new growth.  And this is where my hope is found.

I am thankful our God is a patient God.  …Slow to anger and abounding in love. (psalm 103:8b).






© 2012 Standing on Peace

Mar 022015
I am pretty sure, “Now, be kind please”, comes out of my mouth everyday as my girls maneuver the challenges that “getting along with others” poses.  This week we take on the challenge to show others the love of Jesus by being kind to them.

Our #2 1 Corinthians 13 Love attribute this week is:  “LOVE IS KIND”.

Webster’s defines the word, “Kind or Kindness”, for us:
  • the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate
  • an act of kind assistance

Friends, here are some like minded words for kindness to further expand our mission this week:

affection, warmth,gentleness, concern, care;

consideration, helpfulness, thoughtfulness, unselfishness, selflessness,altruism, compassion, sympathy, understanding, big-heartedness, benevolence, benignity, friendliness, hospitality, neighborliness;
generosity, magnanimity, charitableness, mercy, service, grace
And to follow up with some words opposite to showing kindness.  (In other words, what NOT to do this week):
coldheartedness, hard-heartedness, inhumanity, inhumanness,mercilessness, pitilessness, rude, callousness, coldness, disinterest, indifference, unconcern;cruelty, harshness; animosity, antipathy, dislike, hatred, hostility

My heart tells me the love of Jesus for me, which spills out onto others in a kind way means action on my part.  The above definition says an “ACT” of kindness.  Kindness involves moving myself in such close proximity to another that there is a service performed for them.  If I shut myself and my love for Jesus in my room it is pretty hard to rub shoulders with friends, neighbors, the poor and needy.  And kindness requires reaching out to others-it may be nonverbally, verbally, or through an act of service that causes the individual to feel Seen.  Loved.  Cared for.  Listened to.  Provided for.  Considered.  Helped.  

Of all the opposite’s to kindness, the words, “unconcern and rude”, hit too close to home for me.  I say something in a defensive spirit to my husband and it comes out as a jabbing put down.  In fact it is a downright rude, manipulative, prideful thing to say.  Not kind.  I don’t make eye contact with the checker who always checks me out at the grocery store but only tend to putting items on the belt.  There is no excuse for my unconcern for them.  Not kind.

Of all the like minded words to kindness, the words “consideration and selflessness” were highlighted in my mind and spirit.  How much of my day do I consider self rather than consider another-unfortunately the “me monster” is priority more than I would like.  My needs, desires, comforts, schedule, frustrations, pain, good news are at the forefront of my mind.  This week, my prayer is that we would consider less of ourselves and more of others.  To be filled so much with the loving kindness of Jesus, our Lord, that we can’t help but extend His kindness to those we rub shoulders with.

Quotes/Verses to motivate us towards showing kindness this week:

  • “Because Your lovingkindness is better than life, My lips will praise You.”  Psalm 63:3
  • “Don’t you realize that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?”  Romans 2:4
  • “A warm smile is the universal language of kindness.”  William Arthur Ward
  • “Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight.  Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward.  Your life will never be the same again.”  Og Mandino
  • “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”  Aesop
  • “Kindness, I’ve discovered, is everything in life.”  Isaac Bashevis Singer
  • “Kindness is loving people more than they deserve.”  Joseph Joubert
  • “A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money.”  John Ruskin




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